The first step is admitting to the problem of course, so I suggest you quit hiding or making excuses for it, simply put this on your backpack and you can embrace the issue and start from there.
The last step is to get some help... I believe this book would be a good guide in helping you start somewhere... I hope this will help some, for your partners sake, but please, can you ask that they talk to you about these issues and to stop coming to me abou them?