12 year old and 14 year old sisters go home and tell their parents that they are 4 months and 2 months pregnant respectively.
Then they tell them that the same guy has fathered both of their children and that he is 18 years old.
They tell their parents that they are scared and sorry.
Through all of this, the parents listen without saying a word.
At the end, the parents turn to their daughters and ask them 2 questions.
1. Did he rape you? and 2. How can we help?
The daughters both answer that he did NOT rape them and that they are scared but that they don't want to have abortions because "it isn't fair to the babies".
Their parents are proud of them for being mature enough to not blame the babies, and also for trusting their parents enough to come talk to them.
The parents offer them support and guidance and the young girls once again feel safe and confident.
People (Including some of the parents friends), are quick to judge them. The people blame everything from music, to TV, to video games to bad parenting.
What none of them are realizing is that if it had been bad parenting, the girls never would have had the maturity to turn to their parents. Parents can GUIDE their children to better decisions, but ultimately the decisions are made solely by the child. These girls had the maturity and common sense to realize that the mistakes were THEIRS and THEIRS alone and that THEY had to make a decision again.
The girls DECIDED that it was no fault of their unborn children that they chose to have sex. Therefore they didn't feel that the children should pay for THEIR mistakes.
In my eyes, that's GOOD parenting.
Music, TV, Video Games? Really? That's like saying that nobody on this earth has a mind of their own. We all do. We ALL make our own decisions, good or bad. We have to live by them. Most people can't take blame upon themselves and will look for ANY scapegoat.
This tactic is NOT right.
Thank you for listening to my personal point of view. You may not agree with me, and that's okay. You are entitled to your own opinion.
Lee-Ann Cioffi "Gorgeous" Adored
- 11 years, 8 months, 5 days ago