Am I a Bitch ?!?!?
Ok...I'm going to vent a little and even though I'm venting, I'm also questioning myself and my reactions to people in the process.....I WOULD like to hear other people's opinion on this if for no other reason to see if I'm completely nuts or read into what I'm about to say entirely too much....
I find it very annoying for people to speak to me in a "familiar tone" and they don't actually know me. The "hey babe", "hi sexy", "sweetheart", "darling", “hun”, etc, etc....comments when people (guy or gal) write something to me for the first time really pisses me off and is a complete turn off. I know that it's probably undeserved and I’m probably full of cynicism about it but it just ticks me off.
It probably does for two reasons – 1) because I feel like an object and not a person. If you want to compliment someone, then say it, don’t just say “hi sexy”. Be nice, polite…in short have some manners about it. 2) It’s so easy to say it in a message and “run and hide” and most people would never say it in person; so why do it here?
God…I sound like a bitch….but I’m not. I’m just as flirty as the next person sometimes but it’s with people I know and that know me, not some random stranger that thinks it makes him or her sound “attractive” to me. Trust me, if you want to be attractive to me then be nice, have some manners, be polite, be charming – not a raging hormone. I’ve never once said “hi sexy” to anyone as the first words out of my mouth, I respect myself and them too much to do that – and besides, if I really think that why would I risk it coming across as some cheesy stupid pick-up line?
I’m also not talking about just the guys either. Women can be as forward as the men because they have the internet to hide behind. So I guess I’m torn between the urge to reach thru the screen and slap the person and not assuming they’re after one thing either….I just know that in real life, in person, I don’t get hardly any of the comments with the familiar tone or comments like I do here. Do people (guy’s or gals) honestly believe that “hey sexy” is a great way to say hi and start a conversation? God I hope not.
A compliment is – “Hi how are you? Thanks for stopping by, just returning the favor. I enjoyed reading your profile (ask a question here about it!!) and I think you have a charming smile.”
THAT is something that shows interest in ME besides getting into my pants. It’s engaging, shows effort, genuine interest, and it begs for a reply without actually begging.
I hope to god I’m not coming across as a bitch….I’m not. I genuinely would like to hear what some of you think about this, or if you think I’m going overboard….maybe it’s just like everything else – the “jerks” ruin it for everyone else, including me.
Unknown Purring
- 15 years, 9 months, 8 days ago
